If you haven't read this article yet, please stop what you are doing, and read it right now!
Don't Carpe Diem by Glennon Melton
It has been going around on my friends' Facebook pages, but it is truly an article that every mom should read, regardless of your age and the age of your children. It applies!
I have been thinking about it for the past 24 hours and playing back all the different scenarios as it has applied to my life. Ms. Melton captured what every mother of young children must feel at least once in her life. It deals with Mommy guilt, embarrassing moments, and rose-colored memories from older generations.
She talks about two different times: Chronos time as the "time is what we live in. It's regular time, it's one minute at a time,
it's staring down the clock till bedtime time, it's ten excruciating
minutes in the Target line time, it's four screaming minutes in time out
time, it's two hours till daddy gets home time. Chronos is the hard,
slow passing time we parents often live in." I'm living that time right now because the girls just got off the bus all hyper as heck, and the phone won't stop ringing. Why is it kids can be perfectly quiet until the phone rings or you have to make a call?
If you take the "h" out of Chronos, you have Cronos, Titan god of ancient Greek mythology and father to all the Greek gods we learned about in school. Uhm....by the way..... HE ATE ALL HIS CHILDREN!!!! Not sure I have ever seriously contemplated going that far, but there have been one or two moments when I might have been that crazed ...... just kidding (I think).
Then she talks about Kairos time as being "God's time. It's time outside of time. It's metaphysical time. It's those magical moments in which time stands still." I just had one of those moments last night when Bear would NOT go to sleep so at 9:30, I put her in bed with me. She and I chatted, held, hands, then cuddled, and I got to listen to her fall asleep, something I have not been able to do since she was a little baby.
The Kairos moments must be what the older generations refer to when they tell us mothers with younger children not to wish these days away. Unfortunately, these sage words usually come in the middle of a melt down and fall on tainted if not deaf ears.
We really missed the girls while on vacation, but it was good to have some time just for Tall Guy and me to reconnect. It helps everyone deal better with Chronos time and appreciate the Kairos moments in our lives. I hope you take away a good feeling and understanding of moments in motherhood from Ms. Melton's words. I think she nailed it!